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The topic hasn’t come up again since and at this point, I am just about ready to give him an ultimatum- either he proposes or I’m leaving.I’m also thinking of just getting him a ring at this point just to move this thing along!I’ve had some of my female readers complain that the term neediness makes it sound like I’m framing women as weak, fragile, insecure creatures that just cling to men (and stress them out). I think women bring a tremendous strength and power to the table in relationships…when they have access to it and are free of their own fears. Those fears are greater now more than ever really since there’s an entire industry devoted to making sure men and women are wrought with insecurities so they buy products (sowing in and agitating tiny insecurities is the bread and butter of the marketing world).Just being able to “vent” with other people who can relate to your situation will provide a great deal of relief for you.Look for a counselor who is familiar with addiction and/or consider attending al-anon meetings. We’ve had our problems but have worked through it all and I really want him to pop the question already.
Whenever a relationship goes sour (or fails to launch), it’s almost always caused by some tiny fear, doubt, worry or insecurity that grows and festers until you feel overwhelmed by the whole ordeal. Your fears and worries compel you to confirm whether they’re real or imaginary.As a woman and a lover, one of the things you take upon yourself is to change your man for the better. But in your pursuit to help him become a better man, are you emasculating him and pushing him deeper into his shell? And especially when you’re in a relationship, isn’t it each partner’s selfless love that helps their partner become the best they can be?I’ve met plenty of women who are in a hurry to get married.And I understand the reasons: biological clock, all your friends are married, you feel like “it’s time”, you want to have final commitment, etc.